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How Do We Manage Personal Change?

201025 Aug
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Posted inBe Accountable, Character Triangle

So we’d like to add more of the Character Triangle into our lives. How do we do that? What helps?

Leo Babauta has authored a helpful and practical personal blog on the topic of “personal change” in the August 11, 2010 edition of www.zenhabits.com. (One of the most popular blogs on the web )

Leo’s advice for driving personal change:

Beat inertia with small, achievable changes (don’t plan on running a marathon, start by walking a mile).
Overcome the resistance of others (get people who are negative on your side to cheer lead or spend less time with them… scarcity people get in the way).
Find the Joy (you have to find the joy in what you’re doing… if you hate running, find the joy in early crisp mornings, or whatever you like about the experience).
Keep the joy alive (find ways of refreshing the joy… e.g. you love the sweat and shower after that run too).
Celebrate little victories (brag about the 5 mile walk on Facebook, put the milestone on the fridge, tell people who care about you).
Make the change part of your life (it’s much easier to do as part of your routine vs. having to do it as an add on… “this is how I live”).
Keep doing it, fail, try again (it is a relentless journey).

To make the Character Triangle a part of you, the same elements of change apply. It is a continuous process of small victories, set backs, more small steps and victories. And so on. It is a habit system. Before you know it you are way down the progress road.

with Character,

Lorne

The Inherited Character of a Grandson

20109 May
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Posted inBe Abundant

Have you ever watched a 3-year-old individual play? For that period of time they define abundance. They use what they have around them to create. There is no lack of anything. It is pure joy.

I wish that sense of using what we have to create was more prevalent at work. As entrenched as the “abundance” value is, I still find myself at times wishing for more of something; capital, people, and/or technology. The reality is that most often I have what I need to progress. I just need to think differently. Being abundant is opening up the possibility of all in front of you. Often we have what you need to succeed.

Focus on what we have not what we lack.

with Character,

Lorne

Character Triangle

Our character is exclusively ours. We define it by how we think and what we do. I believe that acting with Character is driven by what I call the Character Triangle.

What, exactly, is the Character Triangle (CT)?

The CT describes and emphasizes three distinct but interdependent values:

Be Accountable: first person action to make things better, avoiding blame.
Be Respectful: being present, listening, looking again, focusing on the process.
Be Abundant: generous in spirit, moving forward, minimizing the lack of.